So we’ve discovered that Tiger finds it difficult to keep it in his trousers. Everyone has views – even the Grand Dames of Fleet Street have spoken and the consensus seems to be that Tiger has been a bad person. Lovely wife, beautiful children and lots of money. Ergo the man has had everything and he blew it.
Newspapers are crossing-off his sponsors slightly too gleefully and we are all experiencing that comforting touch of “schadenfreude” and are secretly almost glad that Tiger has been exposed as a philandering bastard. It is very likely that he will go down the Michael Douglas route and the hide behind the American-invented celebrity “illness” of sex-addiction.
The fact is, ladies, that very successful men – without exception have a very high sex-drive. Whether it has something to do with money or whether it is power, doesn’t matter. It exists. It is not an excuse for naughtiness but it is certainly a contributor.
Over the years, I have met many high-powered individuals who travel the world, dispense life-changing decisions and who are hero-worshipped by their underlings. Most are married and most (not all) engage in extra-marital sex of one sort or another.
How many times have you heard women saying to each other “He left his wife for THAT woman. Look at her!”. It happens more than you think and it is a generally accepted fact that the most successful men are on (at least) their second or third partner.
There is always an element of “exponential decay” in any couple’s sex-life and unfortunately, by the time most men achieve professional power and their sex-drive once again launches into warp-speed, ‘er indoors is usually not the little raver that she used to be in the days before the family arrived. Because of Tiger’s extreme talent, all this has happened to him and his wife when they are both comparatively young and it has all been amplified by intense media scrutiny.
Men stray from their wives for what they perceive to be better sex although they will say the inevitable “I’ve never felt like this about anyone before” to the new lady. That’s normal – even Tiger said it to one of his “friends”. Women, on the other hand, leave their men for love. They really DO believe that they’ve “Never felt like this”.
Well, someone had to say it.
Incidentally, men do not always stray for a better-looking woman because the whole phenomenon has little to do with looks – or age. It is about sex. I am not suggesting that for instance, those “doyens of dirt”- the Rock stars who have shagged their way through quite a statistically significant slice of the female population are in any way not responsible for their actions – but they suffer from the same syndrome. It is NOT an illness – it is life.
Currently, Tiger Woods’ sex-drive will be very very low and that’s because he will not be experiencing the highs of power and success but hopefully he will recover . Mind you, if his career does recover and it’s “situation normal” in a couple of years, he will have to learn to behave and to control himself – otherwise he will have to rebuild his golf-swing.
It’s not easy hitting a golf ball if you’re packing a permanent hard-on.